Increase the Staying Power of Your Resolutions In 2016
By Mandy Bloom
I hate the concept of "detoxing." There, I said it. The medical community does not even recognize detox as even possible. I don't agree with that completely. I prefer the concept of detoxification being more of a metaphor. I truly believe our bodies, minds, and souls are "self cleaning ovens" that detoxify themselves on a regular basis as a part of their normal systemic function. But, we humans have a tendency to need to label. We process things better when they have names we can identify, associate, and eventually compartmentalize. I'd like to invite everyone to redefine the associated words and give our New Year's resolutions a real chance at survival!
When I think of words like "detox" and "cleanse," I immediately associate and have strong feelings. First, I feel a wave of nausea and associate that with a feeling of depletion. Second, I think of explosive diarrhea. I guess I have been lost in the game of detoxes and cleanses for too long! I have tried so many different avenues to get to my health goals by doing some really extreme things. To me, detoxing reminds me of that time I did a juice fast and went on a first date. I was STARVING and dumb enough to have cocktails, and spent a portion of my date in the restroom vomiting. Luckily, my date was really sauced too, and we made a much necessary trip to McDonalds so we could muster the strength to even make out later! That was not my finest hour, nor did it constitute diet success. When I think of cleansing, I remember some things I did when I was younger (I will spare you the details) that may or may not have induced abdominal cramping and frequent trips to the bathroom. These words are just unpleasant and make me want to run and hide. Preferably in a dark closet with a box of donuts.
So, why redefine? Because, if done right, these processes can be utterly life changing, and give those New Year's resolutions real staying power. They can also be (GASP!) pleasant! I know, right?! I think the issue is that we are only looking toward the dieting aspects and not the lifestyle. So, here are some unexpected areas to consider when wanting to make some killer resolutions that you'll actually stick to. This is also the part where I explain some services that I offer and how they can help you get on track and STAY THERE.
1. We can start with the diet, since that is usually the main concern. I am a big proponent of finding what works for you. Swearing off of anything COMPLETELY has not proven effective for me. So, maybe a diet that includes a cheat meal or cheat day is something to consider in that case. People are like snowflakes. No two are the same. Proper diet should be redefined as it pertains to you. Your body needs different things than Susie's. You may need extra B vitamins, while she needs more chromium. If you haven't tried nutritional therapy, you should! Not only does it help you choose foods that are nutrient rich for your individual needs, but it can help you find foods that treat your physical symptoms and ailments. It's not as much about what foods you need to take away, but what you can add to your diet to make yourself feel better! It's like using food as a prescription. That sounds much more pleasant than telling me I can't eat potatoes. Redefine how you see diet as what will work for you!
2. Clutter is next on the list. It can assume many destructive forms. It lurks in your home, in your car, on your desk, and even worse...IN YOUR BRAIN AND SOUL! Most of the time we step over it. Sometimes we even trip over it. Often times, it takes us forever to even acknowledge that it's there. Even then, we sweep it under the rug and vow to get to it later. Before we know it, there's clutter in every room. The task at hand of cleaning up has now become a huge project, and I'm sorry but ,"Ain't nobody got time fo dat!" And yes, this is a metaphor too. Mental and emotional clutter are real. They can deposit themselves in your brain and reside in your physical body and your energetic body. These types of clutter can stagnate your energy and manifest as more intense emotional kickback or complete blockage. This is where things like life coaching and energy work can provide assistance. Sometimes the life clutter is piled up so high, we can't even see what's there, much less figure out how to remove or get around it. Life coaching is like your mental cleaning service. Sometimes, you have to leave it to the pros when it's too far gone. Energy work does the same, but for the emotions and spiritual blockages in the body. They are extremely powerful tools that can be revisited at any time, or done in a series to ensure success. You are supported in your journey and encouraged to view life as a set of baby steps instead of a giant leap!
3. Behavior is another thing we don't think about needing to cleanse or detox from. At the beginning of a new year, we find ourselves reflecting on the previous year. As we do that, it is always good to look at one's Self with brutal honesty. (Another tool in life coaching.) What behaviors are you not the most proud of? Are you lazy? Are you gossipy? Do you waste time judging others and not looking honestly at your Self? Think about this before formulating your resolutions. You might find a shift or a change there. Or something you need to let go of.
Another thing to assess is your thinking. Thought process is everything in creating a life that is full and happy. If you're a Debbie Downer or a Negative Nancy, you are attracting more negativity and even illness in your life. This isn't hoodoo, voodoo, or hippy-dippy hullabaloo. This is quantum physics. The law of attraction is not a freaking secret. It is science. Einstein talked about it. All matter is just vibrating energy. They key to getting anything you want is to vibrate at the same level. Plain and simple. I can help you with this if you're not quite understanding. In a nutshell, keep your thoughts positive, and your life will follow suit. It's a process, but a worthy one. Just like your muscles need training, your brain does too. Practice. Also of note: meditation. Meditation literally trains you to let go of thoughts and just be at peace with a still brain. Most people say they can't meditate because their brain is too active. That is like stepping away from a piano because you can't play a sonata after a few attempts. It is a lifetime process, and must be practiced daily. Otherwise, you're quitting something you never even started. My point is, change your brain and thought process and you'll change your life. Call me if you need help with it.
4. The physical body needs you this year. In order to stay in working order and produce the hormones, pump the blood, process the oxygen, fire the synapses, and all of the other important functions that make you alive, your body needs to keep moving. You don't have to go crazy with it. But you should commit to a level of physical movement that feels good for you. The point is that you carve out time and do what feels good. If you don't like running, don't do it. You would be doing yourself a disservice. This is detoxing and cleansing in a "two birds with one stone" fashion. Physical movement not only helps the organs function to keep that natural cleansing process going , but it releases endorphins that make you happy. Move. Just commit to a small amount of time. Even if you have to start with 30 minutes a week. Even if it's just putting on some good music and moving around. You can start small and challenge yourself to do a little more in your next session. Make time. Don't lie, you know you have some. Do the yoga. Dance. Go for a walk. Redefine exercise and make it a cleansing ritual that makes you joyous.
5. Digital detox is a good example of redefining detox or cleansing. Again, the key is never deprivation. Facebook and Pinterest bring me joy (for the most part)! But, we can all be a little addicted. Maybe you can look at ways to put the digital things away for a certain chunk of time (per day, per week, etc). But it has to be doable for you. Don't set ridiculous goals.
I once read something beautiful about the ritual of cleansing. Let's redefine the concept of New Year's resolutions by trying to see it as this type of cleansing. I remember a scene in a movie called "Joe Versus The Volcano," in which Meg Ryan was being bathed in a spring by a bunch of native women. It has always been the picture in my mind when I think of cleansing as a beautiful and spiritual ritual. We can add this thought (and literal bathing process if you need it) to our new definition. Cleansing should be a relaxing and beautiful process that feels amazing. If it doesn't feel good, you're doing it wrong. Take care of yourself as if it were a delectable indulgence. Enjoy things like massage and spa treatments as if they are essential to your health. Because they are.
The underlying theme in our new definitions for cleansing and detoxing is the concept I am just going to call DOABILITY. Your definition may not be the same as anyone else's. You have to make these things make sense to you. You have to make things seem accessible and doable for you. Making your resolutions attainable might seem overwhelming, but with a little time to redefine and ACTUALLY THINK ABOUT IT, you can take this new year and create a new you. Next year, this time, you will be so happy that you did. So start the process now. Grab a pen and paper and just give yourself 30 minutes to think about your resolutions. Don't just make them up, willy-nilly style! Really think about the things that need cleaning and the toxins (literal and figurative) that need to be removed. Write them down in a brand new notebook and revisit every month. Change them. Let them expand. You'll thank yourself in 2017 when you're looking back at 2016. If it seems too much, too overwhelming, or too confusing to start , call your friendly neighborhood life coach!